When someone treats you poorly—whether through criticism, neglect, manipulation, or even outright cruelty—it often has little to do with you and everything to do with them. Their behavior is a reflection of their own inner wounds, insecurities, and unresolved pain.
People who are hurting will often project that pain onto others, sometimes without even realizing it. This is not to excuse harmful behavior, but to help you understand that it isn’t a reflection of your worth.
You are not responsible for carrying the weight of their past traumas or their inability to process their emotions in a healthy way. When someone lashes out, withdraws, or behaves in a way that wounds you, it’s often because they are struggling internally. Rather than internalizing their actions as a statement about who you are, try to see it for what it is—evidence of their own struggles. Their behavior does not define you, nor does it determine your value.
You are worthy of love, respect, and kindness, regardless of how someone else chooses to treat you. The most empowering thing you can do is to set boundaries, protect your energy, and remind yourself that you are not here to fix or absorb someone else’s pain.
You deserve relationships that uplift, support, and nurture you.
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